Advocating for Your Child at School: Complete Parent Guide
Advocating for your neurodivergent child at school is one of the most important roles you’ll play as a parent. Effective advocacy ensures your child receives the support they need to thrive educationally, socially, and emotionally. This guide provides practical strategies for UK parents navigating the education system.
Understanding Your Rights
Under UK law, children with special educational needs have specific rights:
- Right to SEN Support: All mainstream schools must provide SEN Support for identified needs
- Right to Reasonable Adjustments: Under the Equality Act 2010
- Right to Request EHC Assessment: Parents can request an Education, Health and Care needs assessment
- Right to Information: Schools must keep parents informed about their child’s progress and support
- Right to Appeal: Parents can appeal decisions regarding SEN support and EHCPs
Building Effective Partnerships with Schools
Working with Your SENCO
The Special Educational Needs Coordinator (SENCO) is your primary point of contact:
Best Practices:
- Establish regular communication from the start
- Be clear and specific about your child’s needs
- Share relevant reports and assessments
- Attend all scheduled review meetings
- Build a collaborative, not adversarial, relationship
- Document all conversations and agreed actions
How Tediverse Helps: Use the Communication Hub to maintain records of all school communications, store meeting notes, and track agreed actions and outcomes.
Effective Communication Strategies
Before Meetings:
- Prepare your agenda and questions
- Gather relevant documentation
- Review your child’s progress and concerns
- Identify specific examples of needs and challenges
- Know what outcomes you want from the meeting
During Meetings:
- Listen actively to school perspectives
- Be specific and use examples
- Focus on your child’s needs, not blame
- Ask clarifying questions
- Take notes or bring someone to take notes
- Agree on next steps and timelines
After Meetings:
- Summarize agreements in writing
- Follow up on agreed actions
- Monitor progress
- Maintain positive communication
Preparing for School Meetings
Types of School Meetings
Initial Concern Meetings: First discussions about potential SEN needs
SEN Support Reviews: Regular reviews of support provision (at least three times yearly)
Annual Reviews: For children with EHCPs
Transition Meetings: When moving between year groups or schools
Emergency Meetings: Addressing urgent concerns or issues
Meeting Preparation Checklist
- Review your child’s recent progress and concerns
- Gather relevant reports (medical, therapy, private assessments)
- Document specific examples of difficulties or successes
- Prepare questions you want answered
- Bring someone for support if helpful
- Bring Tediverse documentation if relevant
- Prepare your child’s perspective (if age-appropriate)
- Know your rights and school responsibilities
Documenting and Tracking
Effective advocacy requires good documentation:
What to Document:
- All meetings and conversations
- Agreed actions and timelines
- Progress reports and assessments
- Episodes of difficulty or success
- Communication with professionals
- Concerns and complaints
How Tediverse Helps:
- Episode Tracker: Document specific incidents and patterns
- Communication Hub: Store all school communications
- Health Passport: Organize all assessments and reports
- Visual Schedules: Share successful strategies with school
- Progress Tracking: Monitor improvements over time
Handling Challenges and Disagreements
When Things Aren’t Working
Initial Steps:
- Arrange a meeting to discuss concerns
- Be specific about what isn’t working
- Request specific changes or interventions
- Agree on review timelines
- Document everything
If Issues Persist:
- Request a meeting with headteacher
- Contact your Local Authority’s SENDIASS (SEND Information, Advice and Support Service)
- Consider making a formal complaint
- Explore mediation options
- Consider requesting an EHC needs assessment
Formal Complaints Process
- Informal Stage: Discuss concerns directly with staff
- Formal Complaint: Submit written complaint to headteacher
- Appeal to Governors: If unsatisfied, escalate to school governors
- Local Authority: If still unresolved, contact LA complaints service
Supporting Your Child’s Voice
Involve your child (where age-appropriate) in advocacy:
- Help them understand their needs and strengths
- Support them to express their views
- Create visual or written summaries they can share
- Teach self-advocacy skills gradually
- Ensure their voice is heard in meetings
Building Your Support Network
Key People:
- SENCO and teaching staff
- Local Authority SENDIASS
- Parent Carer Forums
- Charities (Contact, IPSEA, etc.)
- Other parents facing similar challenges
- Educational advocates or solicitors (if needed)
Annual Reviews and EHCPs
For children with EHCPs, annual reviews are crucial:
Preparation:
- Review the current EHCP thoroughly
- Gather evidence of progress and ongoing needs
- Prepare suggested amendments
- Consult with your child about their views
- Coordinate with all professionals involved
Review Process:
- Attend review meeting
- Ensure all sections are reviewed
- Request specific changes if needed
- Follow up on outcomes
- Appeal if necessary
How Tediverse Supports School Advocacy
- Organize all documentation in one place
- Track progress and patterns over time
- Generate reports for school meetings
- Share information securely with school
- Monitor implementation of agreed support
- Document episodes to support evidence